Should You Pay To Marry Your Thai Girlfriend

If you have been successful in your Thai online dating, you might consider taking your relationship with your Thai girlfriend to the next level which is marriage. However there are many foreigners who misunderstand “Sin Sodt” the term for thai bride dowry and equate it to purchasing a Thai bride.

What is Sin Sodt?

Sin sodt is a “Bride Price”, paid to the bride or her family by the groom prior to the wedding. It is a form of Thai marriage custom to use Sin Sodt as a form of paying respect to the bride’s family for bringing up their daughter.

The reason is because poorer Thai families sell land or borrow money to put their kids through university or simply put food on the table. The amount paid for Sin Sodt represent the investment that the parents have put into their daughter.

However some foreigners are disgusted about talking money when they are going to marry their Thai girlfriend and even refused to pay.

Why is there a need for Sin Sodt?

The most commonly stated rationale for the bride price in Thailand is that it allows the groom to demonstrate that he has enough financial resources to support the bride and possibly her family after the wedding. In many cases, especially when the amount is large, the parents of a Thai bride will return all or part of the bride price to the couple in the form of a wedding gift following the engagement ceremony.

However it is socially unacceptable to ask for the money back or expect it to be fully returned.

Because Sin Sod is a reflection of her, you, her family and your family.  A Thai woman lives to make her family proud, to show the other villagers that they are a good family, that they are to be respected.

How much is the price of Sin Sodt?

The price is usually agreed between the two families and usually consists of three elements: cash (millions of Thai baht), Thai (96.5% pure) gold, and Western tradition of a diamond ring.

6 factors that influence the price of Sin Sodt

  1. Family Name
  2. Education
  3. Prior Marital Status
  4. Dependants
  5. Job
  6. Age

If the bride’s family is rich, the Sin sodt will most likely be for show and be returned after the wedding. If a Thai woman is university educated then you will be looking at more than 200,000 Baht which is the moden standard amount.

Why you should pay Sin Sodt

To marry a foreigner with a Sin Sod of less than 200,000 Baht would be quite a loss of face, not just for her but also for you.
The bottomline is if you can afford to pay, then pay. Do not be stingy and make an excuse that by paying Sin Sodt, it will comprised your western marriage traditions.

If you marry into Thai culture then you should expect to pay at least something. Sin Sodt is largely about face and flexible arrangement can be made with your Thai girlfriend’s family.

Supposing you offer nothing for the Sin Sodt, then you will be branded as a cheap charlie with label such as “Farang kee-nock”, “Keniiow” (stingy) and it will make your Thai girlfriend’s family look really bad in front of the villagers.

If you truly love your Thai girlfriend, you should not do something that hurt or insult your Thai girlfriend or her family.

If that is really the case, then you should think before getting involved with a woman from another culture. The reason is because if you marry a Thai woman, marriage is a big event for her and you should really understand the Thai culture first.

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How To Win A Thai Girl With Thai Love Phrases

In the previous post on “How to attract Thai girls with Thai love phrases”, we hope that it is easy for you to practice some basic Thai love phrases in your Thai online dating adventure. If you already have an online Thai girlfriend or you want to take your Thai relationship to the next level, then you can proceed with advanced level of Thai love phrases.

How to pronounce these Thai Love phrases

The words in the bracket are the romanization of the Thai language. You can directly pronounce the alphabets in the bracket and you will produce the effect of speaking the desired love phrases in Thai language.

Advanced Thai love phrases

Below are some common Thai love phrases which you will use often:

I miss you. (pom kit teung koon) ผมคิดถึงคุณ

I miss you all the time. (pom kit-teung koon dta-lod way-la) ผมคิดถึงคุณตลอดเวลา

You make me happy. (koon tam hai pom mee kwarm sook) คุณทำให้ผมมี ความสุข

Love at first sight. (ruk raek pop) รักแรกพบ

I still remember the first moment  we met. (pom yung jum krang-raek tee row pob gun dai) ผม ยังจำครั้งแรกที่เราพบกันได้

I want you to be happy. (pom dtong gan hai koon mee kwarm sook) ผมต้องการให้คุณมีความสุข

Can you be my girlfriend? (ben faen gub pom dai mai) – For yes the reply is “dai” and for no the reply is “mai dai” เป็น แฟนกับผมได้ไหม? ได้ / ไม่ได้

You are my sweetheart. (koon keu yot -ruk kong pom) คุณคือยอดรักของผม

You are the one I have been waiting for. (koon bpen kon dieow tee pom ror koi) คุณเป็นคนเดียวที่ผมรอคอย

I am serious about you. (pom jing jai gup koon) ผม จริงจังกับคุณ

I think about you all night. (pom kit teung koon tung keun) ผมคิดถึงคุณทั้งคืน

I want to meet you. (pom dtong-gan/yaak pop koon) ผม ต้องการ/อยากพบคุณ

I want to hug you. (pom dtong-gan/yaak got koon) ผม ต้องการ/อยากกอดคุณ

Can I kiss you? (pom kor joop koon dai mai) ผม ขอจูบคุณได้ไหม

I want to be with you. (pom yaak yoo gup koon) ผม อยากอยู่กับคุณ

Do you miss me? (koon kit teung pom baang mai) คุณ คิดถึงผมบ้างไหม?

I won’t forget you. (pom ja mai leum koon) ผม จะไม่ลืมคุณ

When do you want me to come back? (koon dtong gan hai pom glup ma muea rai) คุณต้องการให้ผมกลับมาเมื่อไหร่

Hope that you will be successful in your search for a Thai girlfriend. Good luck!
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Valentines Day Ideas For Long Distance Asian Dating

Valentine’s day is the chance for you to declare your love online. You can enhance and keep the relationship strong by showing your love in many ways. You can make someone’s day special with lasting memories by choosing to use some ideas given below.

Here are some methods to help you communicate your love especially for long distance Asian dating.

Romantic Prose and Poetry

One of the most romantic ideas is writing love poems and love letters for your long distance Valentine. You can even write down your real life love story and add your own insights to it like the feelings grew over time.

If you are not feeling extra creative, then too there is nothing to worry about as the answers are easy to find. One could easily get inspired by the various sources like the internet, books and also by listening other people’s compositions of romantic poems and romantic music.

Send online gifts such as flowers

Women absolutely love flowers especially when she receive them as a gift. You will be surprised how much she will value your gift flowers from overseas.

Most of Asian dating websites offer services such as flowers, gifts for members to send to their prospective dating partners. CupidMall which is available in FilipinoCupid, ThaiLoveLinks, KoreanCupid, ChineseLoveLinks.

Here are some tips for choosing a Valentine’s day gift:

  • The gift should be in tune with the preferences of your loved one, mismatched gifts will spoil the effect you want to create
  • remember that even if the gift is inexpensive, it should be tasteful and should conform to the nature of the occasion

It is important to understand that it is the thought behind the gift that counts. Therefore if your gift is able to convey this special meaning to your special someone, then your gift will becomes invaluable.

Say It With Words

Words are the most effective way of communication.  Words always make it easy for you to express your feelings to your loved ones. A simple handwritten message on a personalised gift item like a diary, a mug, or a framed set of words on a canvas are examples of this idea.

However you do it, the result would be more in tune to your imagination than with any other gift idea. The differentiating factor here would be the ‘written word’.

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Dating Cute Korean Girls

Korean pop culture is sweeping all over Asian countries such as the Philippines, Malaysia, Thailand and Singapore. It is also very common for Korean pop girl group singers such as Girls Generation SNSD, Wonder Girls, 2NE1, Kara etc to debut in United States.

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If you are dating a Korean woman, know which type of Korean girl you are dating.

  1. native Korean girl; grew up in korea or have spent her growing up years in Korea before migrating
  2. westernized Korean girl; basically it is like dating a typical western girl
  3. curious Korean girl; who is curious about anything foreign (be prepared to be ditched once the novelty has worn off)

If you are seeking to date a Korean girl who grew up in South Korea, she will tend to be more on the conservative side. When a native Korean girl dates a foreigner, it will be much more complicated due to social and cultural restrictions imposed on them. The Korean girl discussed here are referring to ‘native Korean girl’.

Tips when dating a Korean girl

Get to know each other well before getting serious. Take things slow and easy, thirty days would be a nice time frame for casual dating and just hanging out before getting into a serious relationship.

How to win over a Korean girl’s parents

If you are into a serious relationship with a Korean girl, you have to be prepared to overcome the obstacle of Korean girl’s parents especially if they are from older generation from Korea.

Why? The reason is because most of Korean parents disapprove their daughter dating a foreigner. Most Korean parents hope their children marry the same nationality and the family status play a very important decision when it comes to marriage.

If her family are from the elite privileged class (rich/highly influential), they expect their children to date and marry within their social circle. Many Korean marriages are still arranged between highly influential Korean families.

  • Do not offer a handshake, just bow politely and say a few Korean greetings.
  • when you eat with her parents, wait for the parents to eat first, it is basic Asian table manners and courtesy to respect the elder

Based on the Confucian teachings, Koreans place great emphasis on studying and becoming an important person in the society.

Where to find cute Korean girls for dating?

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Farang Men Dating Thai Girls Advice

Before plunging headlong into Thai online dating scene, you have to understand how Thai women think about dating foreign men and their perceptions. Most local Thai people have the perception that all Farang (term to describe white foreign men) men are wealthy.

Difference between typical Thai girls and Thai women

There is a huge difference between a ‘typical Thai woman’ and ‘Thai women who date farangs’. You have to selectively filter out these Thai girls who purposely choose to date farang men. Avoid tourist areas and the night scene if you can. You can easily find Thai girls who often throw themselves at the first farang men that comes anywhere near them.

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The local Thai people know what is going on in night scene of Pattaya, Phuket, and the sleazy areas of Bangkok. They know that Farang men are trying to pass off these hookers as their girlfriends. Therefore when they see any farang man with a local Thai girl, these Thai local folks will mistakenly assume their wife or girlfriend is a hooker.

How Thai women pick up men

Thai women are conservative by nature. This is how a mainstream Thai woman approaches a guy she is interested in.

Her friend or herself will approach you and say that someone is really interested in you and ask if you are available. Usually the friend will never reveal who it is until he/she knows that it’s a green light.

If a Thai woman approaches you directly, it will be very subtle and it will not even appear like she is really interested in you. If a Thai woman drops these subtle hints and the guy does not get it, she will not  pursue you for long.You must really be very sensitive and pick up these subtle hints.

Mainstream Thai women are very conservative when it comes to courtship and the man really has to be the aggressor. If the woman is the initiator, then she must be one of those who are ready to hook up with Farang men.

However with that being said, not all Thai women are farang seducer, there are always some affluent Bangkok women who are more than ready to date farang men. However you just cannot erase the Thai perception of “a foreign man with a local Thai girl hooker” when you go out on the streets with her.

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