Chinese Dating Myths

If you are a western men seeking to find a real traditional Chinese women from China for dating, you can be easily misled by so many misinformation garbage floating around the sea of internet. Do not consume stories wholesale that you discover on the forums or blogs that are written by western men living in China. You really need to open up your eyes to discern the half-truths from the reality.

Many of these so called authors are merely westerners living or working briefly in major cities of China. Their stories are often seen through their tinted lens and may not reflect the actual social environment.

Dating information are often distorted due to the fact that western foreign men tend to attract the curiosity of Chinese locals especially Chinese girls wanting to experience the western way of life. By associating themselves or even involve in sexual relationships with western men, these Chinese women may derived their self esteem from these relationships.

Understanding Chinese culture and language

Before you are ready to build a relationship with a Chinese woman, it is better to arm yourself with some knowledge of Chinese culture and language. You will never want to turn off a Chinese woman by saying the wrong things which may seem casual in the western culture.

China Chinese people like to hold on to their traditions and that reflects in Chinese dating. China society is gradually adopting the modern outlook but deep down inside, Chinese people are traditional at heart.

To put things straight once and for all:

Myth #1: Chinese women are eager to sleep with western men

There are many information minefields on the internet and you must look at their underlying meanings of their dating adventures.

If you can find Chinese girls who are actually eager to sleep with you on the second or third date, there is only one option: RUN. This is provided that you are looking for a serious relationship not some one night flings or casual no-strings attached relationships.

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Check their background, avoid those highly Westernized Chinese women from major cities such as Shanghai, Beijing, Shenzhen, particularly those who have a history of dating or living with foreign men. These highly Westernized Chinese women are aspiring to associate themselves with western men for their own hidden agendas.

Myth #2: “Good” Chinese girls offer sex as way of securing marriage

From one particular award winning educational website for foreign teachers and expat expounding on the virtues of dating Chinese women, its views are:  “For most good Chinese girls, an offer of sex is almost always a gesture of good faith in contemplation of marriage. It’s intended to be a binding dealmaker”

This is completely hogwash !

Virginity at marriage is very sacred to traditional Chinese women, Chinese society will look down on women who indulged in sexual relations before marriage. These Chinese women will be called names such as “loose woman”, sluts, cheap by their own people.

TIP: If you are a western man seeking a serious relationship, you are most likely to attract those highly Westernized Chinese women, so it is up to you to set your own filters and dating alarm system.

Myth #3: Step 1-2-3 dating leading to marriage

Please do not be misled by such thing as:

  • First date: if a Chinese girl agrees to go out with a man, she is formally acknowledging this man as a viable candidate for marriage.
  • If she agrees to a second date, then she is consenting to the distinct possibility of marriage.
  • A third date for a traditional Chinese girl will commonly be perceived as indicating mutual intentions of marriage in the foreseeable future.

If Chinese dating is so easy and simplistic as following a three step by step process, then there will be no shortage of Chinese men who cannot find a marriage partner. These mispresentations reveal such naivety and lack of understanding of Chinese social settings by these westerners living in major Chinese cities.

In the rural Chinese community, pre-arranged marriage is still practised where parents of both parties agreed to matchmake their children.

There is no such thing as 1-2-3 Chinese dating and fast-food style dating can only apply to the younger generation of Chinese people who are more exposed to the world due to the internet.

In conclusion, Chinese women demand to be treated with the same honesty, respect, and dignity as any other Asian women.

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Chat With Cute Chinese Girls in Asia FriendFinder

Asia FriendFinder is one of the largest online dating services specifically for Asians or those who are seeking Asian friends around the world. There are as many as 5,289,296 Asian members in Asia FriendFinder, accurate at time of publishing. You can meet your ideal Chinese women in Asia FriendFinder

How to attract attention of Chinese girls in Asia FriendFinder

Invest a little time in keeping your profile current. Just spend a short time periodically to check your email, update your profile and you will reap the rewards many times – more attention from Chinese women. Here are some things you might add or revise to your Asia FriendFinder online dating profile:

  • add your hometown location: you might meet someone raised in the same place  and there is the opportunity to strike up a online conversation
  • Edit your Cupid Preferences: the more selection you choose, the more Asian members your Cupid Report will feature
  • Add photo album: upload some of your vacation photos and show Asian women the other side of you

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How Asia FriendFinder can help you in your search for Chinese women

Asia Friendfinder gives you an established Asian community in which to you can pursue your interest in Asian women.

  • you can meet other members instantly in Asia Friendfinder online chat rooms
  • Asia Friendfinder Instant Messenger is FREE and provides a fun and easy communication with Asian friends around the world.
  • Save money as you are chatting via the Internet, you avoid long-distance charges while enjoying the high-tech fun of video, audio, and text.

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As a Asia Friendfinder standard member, you can get to enjoy all of the above features for free !

Use Advanced Search functions to locate your right ideal Chinese woman. You can upgrade to a Silver membership which will enable you to find people from a specific ethnic group, those who speak your language, or live close to you. You can also search by Personality Type and screen out listings without photos and save the search for later use.

Shortage of Chinese Women in China

During 2000 to 2010, the average gender ratio of newborn babies was 110 males to 118 females. There are 34 million more Chinese men than Chinese women in China. By 2020, 24 million young Chinese men may not find a marriage partner.

Why Chinese male babies are preferred

One of the common reasons why Chinese males are preferred is because of the social culture that having a son can carry on a family’s name. However the cost of bringing up a son in China is very high because Chinese men have to fork out large sum of money (one to two million yuan) to buy a house before they can marry their girlfriends.

Young Chinese women hot in demand

Due to the three decades of China’s one-child policy, the widening gender gap may cause social issues. When there are more young Chinese males, Chinese women in the marriage market have the luxury of picking and choosing the most highly desirable men. This will leave those unwanted Chinese men without any marriage prospects.

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The potential for social tensions may be more rampant since millions of single young Chinese males have no chance of marrying a Chinese woman.

The outcasts single young Chinese males will develop low-self esteem, sexual frustration which may lead to sexual aggression. Cross-cultural evidence shows that young, unmarried low status males are more most likely to commit sexual violence.

Smart beautiful Chinese women

Chinese women in China have proven themselves to be valuable in the society, Chinese females in the cities such as Shanghai, Chengdu now match or even surpass men in their economic contribution to their family and the society.

Young single Chinese women are graduating from university at same rate as men, Chinese women make up nearly 40% of MBA students at top-ranked programmes in prestigious Chinese universities.

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Dating China Chinese Girls Online

If you are looking to date Chinese girls online or searching for a Chinese woman soulmate, you had better know their top three criteria for a marriage partner. With the proliferation of Internet in China, young Chinese girls and women are flocking to online Chinese dating websites searching to explore their new found freedom.

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Chinese women top 3 criteria

According to the All-China Women’s Federation survey, 70% of China’s Chinese women want their prospective suitor to own a house.

  1. emotional connection
  2. economic conditions
    –owning a home
  3. ability to work
    –stability of job

Chinese women felt that owning a home is a prerequisite for those seeking marriage. While some may castigate Chinese women for being materialistic and too focused on the economics of tying the knot.

Why China Chinese women are cherry picking

China Chinese women of marrying age are in short supply because of of its one-child policy. This huge gender imbalance among the China’s younger generation means that an estimated 24 million China men are fated to remain in bachelorhood by 2020.

Now that Chinese women are aware they are holding the trump cards in the online dating singles market, they can afford to screen and cherry pick their suitors. As China is becoming an economic powerhouse, Chinese women are facing today’s highly materialistic society, it is natural for them to be practical.

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How to tell the difference between Chinese girls and Korean girls?

Differences between Chinese girls and Korean girls?

In the online dating scene, you will probably be looking at only pictures of Chinese girls or Korean girls. However most men from European countries might get easily confused between Chinese and Korean girls. They may all look the same and classified them as Asian women with slanted eyes.

You can easily tell apart between Chinese girls from China and native Korean girls from Korea. It’s mainly the facial structures but not necessarily the size and shape of  their eyes. Chinese and Korean girls can have small or big eyes.

Chinese girls from China

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Chinese girls are the most natural beauty and they preferred less make up while Korean girls are into cuteness and they are immaculately dolled up.

Korean girls

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Interwining history of Korea and China

Koreans take pride in their country’s continuous survival against foreign invasions, however Korea was finally invaded by the Manchus in 1627 after which the Joseon dynasty recognized the suzerainty of the Qing dynasty of China.

Due to the closeness of the borders and past history of both countries, Korean culture was based on the philosophy of Confucian principles from China. Buddhism and the written Chinese script was brought to Korea by the Chinese.

“Chinese” actually includes a lot of different races and languages. Mandarin is the spoken language in China and there is only  one type of written language . The majority of ethnic group are Han Chinese.

Migration and  interbreeding caused Koreans to look like Chinese people.  “Chinese” should be used in the same way as “European” and not in the same way as “English” or “French”.

Physical appearances

To be honest, you can’t really tell. There are Chinese women who have big round eyes, some who have double eyelids, some doesn’t have slit/slanted eyes.

Most Chinese women have porcelain white complexion compared to Korean girls who are more tanned.

The majority of Korean girls don’t have natural double eyelids therefore it is very common for Korean women to have plastic surgery on their nose and eyes.

Fashion and dressing

With the luxury brands such as GUCCI, Louis Vuitton established in China, Chinese girls from big cities such as  Beijing, Guangzhou are more affluent and are more likely to be dress well. However there are still plenty of Chinese girls from countryside who like to wear traditional cheongsam for their online profile pictures and many need a lot of catching up in their fashion sense.

Korean girls are more fashion forward and they are more likely to doll up with heavy makeup. Long fake eyelashes, pink glossy lipstick, curly brown or highlighted tresses are the norm.

Cultural appearances

To avoid generalizing and giving stereotypical answers, as individuals, Chinese girls and Korean girls are all different depending on their personality and culture influences.

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