Online Dating Modern Chinese Girls

There are many young and beautiful Chinese women in the big cities such as Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Shenzhen who are willing to have a causal relationship.These young Chinese girls are usually under 26 years old, well-educated, upwardly mobile Chinese women. Most of them are not marriage-minded and they are searching for a mutually satisfying short-term relationship.

Why Chinese girls are alluring

Chinese girls do not always try to put you down unlike western women. Most of them are genuinely polite and open minded. Their shyness may give off a mystique that is captivating and may sweep off your feet. These add a certain exotic aura to them and their friendliness are confidence boosting for some foreigners.

For western men looking for a relationship with Chinese girls, it is an encouraging experience for foreign men who are being shunned by women in their own countries. However please be aware of the social taboos or faux-pas as dating in China is entirely different from the west.


Young Chinese women dating beliefs

Chinese young adults in Beijing and Shanghai may be trying to emulate the same sexual freedom and social acceptance found in western countries. Young Chinese are well-informed by their awareness of the Western world around them through movies, popular cable tv programs and the internet.

Young Chinese girls do not subscribed to the idea that people should remain a virgin before getting married. They regard this as an old and obsolete tradition practice by the older generation.

If you come across a Chinese girl who is not particularly interested in security and dependability, then she is only looking to have a ‘good time’ aka friends with benefits type of relationship.

However most of Chinese women know the consequences of dating a foreigner. The vast majority of Chinese men will automatically eliminate any Chinese girl who has dated a Westerner as a viable marriage partner.

Some Chinese girls may prefer foreign men depending on their particular preferences. However once they reach a certain age (late twenties) they would feel that they have had their fun and want to find a man to settle down with leading to marriage and children.

What mature Chinese women want

Chinese women who are in late thirties are considered ‘old’ by Chinese dating standards. When searching for a suitable marriage partner, they tend to value security and dependability far more than physical attractiveness.

It is not that older Chinese women would not prefer a handsome young man, but because they do not have a choice as they are regarded as unattractive or “too old” by Chinese social standards.

Please be sure to ask them about their backgrounds as there are different types of Chinese women on the Chinese online dating websites. Examples include aging KTV girls, divorced women with children, gold diggers, visa hunters, wealthy married middle-aged women who are extremely lonely and bored and poor rural Chinese girls who are looking to improve their quality of life.

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Courtship and Dating Chinese Girls

Dating Chinese girls is entirely different from the western culture. To avoid misunderstandings and awkward situations, it is better to appreciate and understand the Chinese dating etiquette and their views on relationships and sex.

Understanding Chinese dating beliefs

Besides the first tier cities like Beijing, Shanghai, Guandong, China is still an agricultural country where most of Chinese women in China come from relatively poor families and the countryside. Because of Chinese tradition preference for male babies, the sex ratio between male and female are lopsided. There are more male babies born than female babies.

For many Chinese girls, these means that they have to compete for Chinese men in China if they are not pretty enough. Some of Chinese girls even contemplate to pursue foreign men as an attractive proposition.


There is saying that is repeated among Chinese parents to their children in poor rural countryside:  “marrying a poor foreigner is always better than marrying a rich Chinese”. The reason is that when a Chinese man gets rich, he will tend to seek mistresses (xiao san) thus affecting the marriage and neglecting his wife.

Common Chinese dating practices

Casual dating is non-existent in China so avoid these kind behavior as most of Chinese girls simply do not understand or feel comfortable with the Western concept of serial dating. Chinese girls might misunderstand and even view men who serial date as a womanizer.

The dating process is often filled with intelligence reports from their circle of friends. Therefore if a Chinese girl is attracted to a particular male friend or colleague, her friends will inform her with his age, educational level, earning potential, overall personality, temperament and his ability to provide for her and her family.

Chinese women group dating

If a Chinese man or woman is interested in someone, a mutual friend will arrange a dinner with a group of six to eight people. Another situation is where a mutual friend decides to play matchmaker between two friends or colleagues.

The two interested or intended parties will not be seated side by side but separated by at least two to three other people. This allows them to be close enough to communicate with each other to determine their personality in the social setting.

During this “qualifying-stage” dinner, mutual friends will direct the conversation towards topics such as current occupation, educational and relationship history, children, family background, present living arrangements, etc that allow the Chinese man or woman to qualify each other as potential dating partner.

This social arrangement makes it very convenient for each party to save face if one of the party is not interested thus saving undue embarrassment. “Saving face” is very important in Chinese social culture.

If there is mutual interest between the two parties, Chinese woman will be more obvious  in terms of eye contact, facial expressions, the number and types of questions that were asked of each other.

After a group meeting, if a Chinese girl agrees to go out with the man then it will be the first date, she is formally acknowledging this man as a viable candidate for marriage.

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Chinese Women Online Dating

Online dating Chinese women from China  is very different from overseas Chinese people around the world. In case you are confused, overseas Chinese are people of Chinese descent who live outside People’s Republic of China. Due to waves of emigration in the colonial days,  many Chinese are forced to seek a better life in Southeast Asia and as far as North America.

Chinese dating traditions

The younger Chinese generation are more educated and exposed to western culture due to the wide influence of the internet. However when it comes to dating, they share the same traditional beliefs and values. The Chinese culture is very family-oriented and family plays an important role.

The present Chinese generation also believes in respecting the elders’ wishes in the family unlike western culture, where teenagers are brought up to be independent thinking and self sufficient.

The young Chinese singles do not subscribe to the western concept of serial dating. The Western practice of dating multiple people to learn more about them before making a mutually exclusive commitment does not exist in China.

The Chinese culture view serial dating with utter disdain and often term Chinese men who play around girls as “hua hua gong zi” or playboy. For a Chinese girl, it will be merciless and there is a stigma for those who flirt around and neighbours may gossip and label them as “loose woman” or sluts.

There is a general belief that dating or marrying the wrong person may bring disgrace to the whole family.


Dating modern Chinese women

You can also easily find Chinese women who are especially interested in meeting Western men. However a word of caution, these highly westernized Chinese women are not the “normal” type of traditional Chinese women. These westernized Chinese women tend to live in major cities of China like Beijing, Shanghai, Shenzhen and are highly affluent.

Most of them are only looking for a good time and they are interested in casual dating and sex without strings attached. These westernized Chinese women favor young and relatively suave foreign guys.

Most of westernized women will make themselves available in a variety of venues frequented by foreigners including English corners, expat bars, supermarkets and even Western restaurants.

Foreign men who think that dating Asian women is an easy prey and play the dating game as an ego-boasting activity may face severe backlash by the local Chinese community.

Modern Chinese dating

With the extensive reach of internet, young Chinese singles are looking at online dating sites for suitable dating partners or a place to make new friends. The new age electronic medium is bringing Chinese singles closer to each other and many are finding their love on the internet.

The Chinese society is gradually adopting the modern outlook however deep down inside their hearts, they will try to stick to their values and traditions.

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Chinese Dating Myths

If you are a western men seeking to find a real traditional Chinese women from China for dating, you can be easily misled by so many misinformation garbage floating around the sea of internet. Do not consume stories wholesale that you discover on the forums or blogs that are written by western men living in China. You really need to open up your eyes to discern the half-truths from the reality.

Many of these so called authors are merely westerners living or working briefly in major cities of China. Their stories are often seen through their tinted lens and may not reflect the actual social environment.

Dating information are often distorted due to the fact that western foreign men tend to attract the curiosity of Chinese locals especially Chinese girls wanting to experience the western way of life. By associating themselves or even involve in sexual relationships with western men, these Chinese women may derived their self esteem from these relationships.

Understanding Chinese culture and language

Before you are ready to build a relationship with a Chinese woman, it is better to arm yourself with some knowledge of Chinese culture and language. You will never want to turn off a Chinese woman by saying the wrong things which may seem casual in the western culture.

China Chinese people like to hold on to their traditions and that reflects in Chinese dating. China society is gradually adopting the modern outlook but deep down inside, Chinese people are traditional at heart.

To put things straight once and for all:

Myth #1: Chinese women are eager to sleep with western men

There are many information minefields on the internet and you must look at their underlying meanings of their dating adventures.

If you can find Chinese girls who are actually eager to sleep with you on the second or third date, there is only one option: RUN. This is provided that you are looking for a serious relationship not some one night flings or casual no-strings attached relationships.


Check their background, avoid those highly Westernized Chinese women from major cities such as Shanghai, Beijing, Shenzhen, particularly those who have a history of dating or living with foreign men. These highly Westernized Chinese women are aspiring to associate themselves with western men for their own hidden agendas.

Myth #2: “Good” Chinese girls offer sex as way of securing marriage

From one particular award winning educational website for foreign teachers and expat expounding on the virtues of dating Chinese women, its views are:  “For most good Chinese girls, an offer of sex is almost always a gesture of good faith in contemplation of marriage. It’s intended to be a binding dealmaker”

This is completely hogwash !

Virginity at marriage is very sacred to traditional Chinese women, Chinese society will look down on women who indulged in sexual relations before marriage. These Chinese women will be called names such as “loose woman”, sluts, cheap by their own people.

TIP: If you are a western man seeking a serious relationship, you are most likely to attract those highly Westernized Chinese women, so it is up to you to set your own filters and dating alarm system.

Myth #3: Step 1-2-3 dating leading to marriage

Please do not be misled by such thing as:

  • First date: if a Chinese girl agrees to go out with a man, she is formally acknowledging this man as a viable candidate for marriage.
  • If she agrees to a second date, then she is consenting to the distinct possibility of marriage.
  • A third date for a traditional Chinese girl will commonly be perceived as indicating mutual intentions of marriage in the foreseeable future.

If Chinese dating is so easy and simplistic as following a three step by step process, then there will be no shortage of Chinese men who cannot find a marriage partner. These mispresentations reveal such naivety and lack of understanding of Chinese social settings by these westerners living in major Chinese cities.

In the rural Chinese community, pre-arranged marriage is still practised where parents of both parties agreed to matchmake their children.

There is no such thing as 1-2-3 Chinese dating and fast-food style dating can only apply to the younger generation of Chinese people who are more exposed to the world due to the internet.

In conclusion, Chinese women demand to be treated with the same honesty, respect, and dignity as any other Asian women.

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Chat With Cute Chinese Girls in Asia FriendFinder

Asia FriendFinder is one of the largest online dating services specifically for Asians or those who are seeking Asian friends around the world. There are as many as 5,289,296 Asian members in Asia FriendFinder, accurate at time of publishing. You can meet your ideal Chinese women in Asia FriendFinder

How to attract attention of Chinese girls in Asia FriendFinder

Invest a little time in keeping your profile current. Just spend a short time periodically to check your email, update your profile and you will reap the rewards many times – more attention from Chinese women. Here are some things you might add or revise to your Asia FriendFinder online dating profile:

  • add your hometown location: you might meet someone raised in the same place  and there is the opportunity to strike up a online conversation
  • Edit your Cupid Preferences: the more selection you choose, the more Asian members your Cupid Report will feature
  • Add photo album: upload some of your vacation photos and show Asian women the other side of you


How Asia FriendFinder can help you in your search for Chinese women

Asia Friendfinder gives you an established Asian community in which to you can pursue your interest in Asian women.

  • you can meet other members instantly in Asia Friendfinder online chat rooms
  • Asia Friendfinder Instant Messenger is FREE and provides a fun and easy communication with Asian friends around the world.
  • Save money as you are chatting via the Internet, you avoid long-distance charges while enjoying the high-tech fun of video, audio, and text.

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As a Asia Friendfinder standard member, you can get to enjoy all of the above features for free !

Use Advanced Search functions to locate your right ideal Chinese woman. You can upgrade to a Silver membership which will enable you to find people from a specific ethnic group, those who speak your language, or live close to you. You can also search by Personality Type and screen out listings without photos and save the search for later use.

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